Every guide we’ve written, in one place.
Organized by where you are. Start at the top if it just happened. Skip to grief or estate if you’re further out. The glossary is at the bottom — keep it open in another tab if anyone uses an unfamiliar word.
Not sure where to start?
Two free things solve most families’ immediate questions before they need anything else: fair prices in your zip (so you know if a quote is reasonable) and the prep kit (so you know what to ask). No account needed for either.
If it just happened
- Where are you in this?
Pick a path. Just happened, arranging, planning ahead.
- Caring for someone who is dying
The last weeks and the last hours. What dying looks like, what helps, what hurts, care of the caregiver.
- Sudden death
Paramedics, police, the medical examiner. What happens in the first 72 hours when there was no warning.
- When someone dies in hospice
Don't call 911. What to expect in the final days and the hour of death.
- Death away from home
Out-of-state, international, at sea. The two-funeral-home model, transport options, and the cheaper option most families miss.
Decisions and arrangements
- What type of service fits?
Four questions about faith, body, and budget. We recommend a service type.
- Fair prices in your zip
What funeral services should cost in your area, by line item. Free. No account.
- Funeral costs by city
Fair-price ranges for 28 major US metros. Direct cremation, traditional burial, green burial — what each service type should cost locally.
- What you can decline
Nine line items most families don't know they can refuse — embalming, vault upgrades, family limo, more.
- How the funeral industry’s sales floor works
Specific scripts, room layouts, and pricing psychology. Red flags vs green flags. Where to file a complaint.
- Family-led home funerals
The family cares for the body at home. Legal in 41 states. What it is, what it isn't.
- Whole-body donation
Free, supports medical research, skips the funeral home. Plus a backup plan when programs decline.
After the funeral — the first 30 days
- The 30-day checklist
Death certificates, Social Security, banks, insurance, accounts to close — in the right order.
- Social Security survivor benefits
$255 lump-sum, monthly survivor benefits, divorced-spouse rules, the three traps families fall into.
- Veterans burial benefits
What the family of a veteran qualifies for at the VA. Most families miss at least one.
- Digital legacy
Facebook, Apple, Google, password vaults, crypto, subscriptions still billing.
Paying for it
Estate settlement (long term)
Grief and family
- Grief, month by month
Why month 6 is often the hardest. Finding a grief therapist. Support groups by type of loss.
- Talking to children about death
Age-by-age scripts (3-5, 6-10, 11-15). The euphemisms that backfire. When to get professional help.
- When the world doesn't recognize your loss
Miscarriage, ex-spouses, estranged family, unmarried partners, chosen family, pet loss. Grief that other content silently leaves out.
- When the animal you loved dies
The euthanasia decision, in-home options, disposition paths, and resources for grief that isn’t 'just a pet.'
- Suicide loss
For people grieving someone who died by suicide. Why the grief is its own thing, AFSP and Alliance of Hope, the elevated risk for survivors, 988.
- Overdose loss
Addiction is a disease. GRASP and SAMHSA. The relationship before death, the stigma, the children, the family members who still use.
- Death of a child
For bereaved parents of any-age children. The marriage strain reality (the 80% myth is false), surviving siblings, grandparents, The Compassionate Friends.
- Funeral etiquette for attendees
What to say (almost nothing), what to wear, whether to bring kids, flowers vs donations, the casserole rules, and how to actually help.
Buying outside the funeral home
Plan ahead — no death yet
- Pre-need planning playbook
Death folder, advance directives, beneficiaries, written funeral preferences. The four-pillar weekend project.
- End of life — when you're the one dying
For people with a terminal diagnosis. Palliative vs hospice, MAID where legal, treatment decisions, what to actually do with the time.
- Planning for yourself or an aging parent
The non-crisis entry point. Free cheat sheet, fair-price lookup, the conversation to have now.
Reference
- Glossary of funeral terms
Plain-English definitions of every industry term — GPL, basic services fee, FTC Funeral Rule, more.
- FAQ
How we make money, what we do, what the $199 fee covers, what we won't do.
- How the toolkit works
What the $199 unlocks, step by step. The funeral-home outreach process explained.
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